My Voice

family court, mental health, self-care

Weathering the Storm

Sometimes the Universe conspires to meet you where you are, push you forward to where you need to be. Two weeks ago a series of family court decisions rocked our house. While in the end nothing really changed for the time, we had hope and peace ripped out from under us and I think we… Continue reading Weathering the Storm

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domestic violence, self help

Gift of Time

Aidan is gone for ten days. Markus has been gone for five and will return late tomorrow. I find myself with an entire day to myself and knowing exactly what to do. I slept until nearly 10:00 this morning. Once normal, or even early, this is unheard of these days when 8:00 seems like a… Continue reading Gift of Time

community

Practicing Faith and Authenticity in Family Court

My dreams did not come true today. It was close. I learned about the Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality as I was in the car on my way home from the courthouse. I cried tears of relief, fear and happiness. As a proud advocate for LGBTQ rights for the whole of my adult life… Continue reading Practicing Faith and Authenticity in Family Court

community, safety

If I Did One Thing Right As A Parent…

I am not a perfect mother. I am human. Very human. I do a lot right and am actually pretty proud of how I parent. The relationship my son, Aidan, and I have despite all we have been through (both together and apart) is solid. I’m highly impatient at the dinner table. It drives me… Continue reading If I Did One Thing Right As A Parent…

health, mental health

Me and Brené and My Journey Back from Shame

The last few months of 2014 were really tough for me. I had a new husband who proved to me more every day to be exactly the man I dreamed of sharing my life with. I had a beautiful little boy who, despite showing some signs of wear from dealing with his father in new… Continue reading Me and Brené and My Journey Back from Shame

“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” -Judy Garland
Parenting, transgender

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

This is the fourth in a four-part series. We have been awaiting a report on a best interest custody evaluation for over a year. This has been difficult enough, waiting and wondering. Though we finished the interview process over a year ago, the evaluator decided that he should finally speak to a teacher on the… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whatever comes. because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. -Rumi
self help

Practicing Gratitude, Welcoming Miracles

Yoga is a practice. Wholehearted living is a practice. Just like learning a new instrument, these things are a practice. There is always room for growth. In the last year, I have been practicing meditation. For years I have met the “do you meditate?” question with resistance and “I’ve tried but I’m terrible at it.”… Continue reading Practicing Gratitude, Welcoming Miracles

Parenting, transgender

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 3

This is the third in a four-part series. Aidan’s “first day” as a girl was exciting. She and I went to the beach on a warm April day, only to find it was pretty cold at the beach but she was wearing what would become her new favorite outfit, a dinosaur skort with a lovey… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 3

“Over the years I have learned that what is important in a dress is the woman who is wearing it.” -Yves Saint-Laurent quote
Parenting, self love

Whole Hearted Parenting in Practice: Part 2

This is the second in a four-part series. Not long after wearing nail polish to school for the first time, Aidan was relaxing in the tub before doing the “business of the bath.” I was unprepared for my child, who was playing with their penis, told me “Mommy, I don’t think I’m supposed to be… Continue reading Whole Hearted Parenting in Practice: Part 2

"We've begun to raise daughters more like sons...but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters." -Gloria Steinem dark-haired boys and a girl running happily outside
Parenting

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 1

This is the first in a four-part series. Aidan wanted to wear toe nail polish at about eighteen months old. For being one of the easiest children ever, cutting Aidan’s toenails was a NIGHTMARE, but putting Aidan in the highchair so one couldn’t see their feet allowed me to cut toenails, then I’d slip on… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 1