“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” -Judy Garland
Parenting, transgender

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

This is the fourth in a four-part series. We have been awaiting a report on a best interest custody evaluation for over a year. This has been difficult enough, waiting and wondering. Though we finished the interview process over a year ago, the evaluator decided that he should finally speak to a teacher on the… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

“The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.” - Nicole Lyons
culture, mental health, self help, self love

Teaching Him to Feel His Pain

I am doing research on suicide in the arts for suicide prevention week and was startled by the high risk faced by creative professionals. The rate is four times higher than the average population. One possible cause is the recurring rejection of a personal product, or yourself in the case of performers. Stress adds to… Continue reading Teaching Him to Feel His Pain

divorce, self help

Peace in Place of Father

His absence gave my mother the space she needed to find herself. It gave my sisters and me the possibility for peace we hadn’t known. The moments when he would come back into our lives wreaked havoc on any progress I’d made, more often than not he’d be drunk and embarrassing. These occasions opened old wounds and it became very clear to me that the best thing he could do was to stay away.

community, health

Thanks, Mom

“In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month I light this candle of gratitude for my mother, Lynn, who had the courage to leave an abusive husband with three young daughters in tow. I am certain she saved our lives, and she taught us that love shouldn’t hurt.” Every Sunday at worship at the Unitarian Universalist… Continue reading Thanks, Mom