There are a lot of things that get in the way of talking about an abusive relationship or an assault with the people we love and who love us such as shame, fear, embarrassment, just to name a few. Making that first contact with someone who believes you could be the turning point. There are people trained to listen and guide you to shelters, medical centers, or the authorities.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673) or chat online

Teen Dating Violence Hotline: Call: 1-866-331-9474  or text “loveis” to 22522 or chat online

Safety Plan If you are being hurt or threatened make a plan to keep you and your children safe.


The internet can be a great place to find information. However, computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. Most domestic violence sites will have an escape button in case you have to get away from it quickly. If you are worried your computer use is being monitored please make a phone call to a hotline.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Purple Purse  Many women stay in abusive relationships due to financial abuse. The AllState Foundation is here to help you get on your feet.

Domestic Shelters  Find hotlines and shelters in your area.

State Coalitions Get connected with your state coalition with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

16 Ways in 16 Days Ways to take a stand against domestic violence.

Teen Dating Violence Loveisrespect’s mission is to engage, educate and empower young people to prevent and end abusive relationships.

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization and was named one of “America’s 100 Best Charities” by Worth magazine.

Books to inspre

Before I ever sought professional help with my childhood sexual abuse recovery, rape, or domestic violence I turned first to books. When struggling to make sense of my world I’ve always found that the insight and personal stories found on the page can help me solidifying my feelings and give me the courage to keep going.


TED talks have changed the world. You can now move to thousands of lecture halls around the globe without ever leaving your living room. I’ve watched hundreds of these talks and am a better person for it. Here are a few of my favorites on gender and violence.

Find Your Voice Against Gender Violence

How We Turned the Tide on Domestic Violence

Violence Against Women: It’s a Men’s Issue

A Call to Men

What Security Means to Me

Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave

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