divorce, domestic violence, family court, self help, transgender

Worth Fighting For

My daughter deserves to grow up in a home where she is treated with dignity and where her self-identified gender is respected. She deserved to grow up loved by her parents for who she is. This is not only the moral thing to do, State law requires it.

Faith is believing in something wehn common sense tells us not. Mircael on 34th Street quote
divorce, family court

Hope Fades Quickly

It’s hard to breathe. I was exhausted and scared and confused when I started the week. I didn’t know it could all be multiplied. The holiday rush began and I started out behind schedule. No baking done. No cleaning done. Come Monday morning when I left the house to attend court-ordered custody mediation, the house… Continue reading Hope Fades Quickly

“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” -Judy Garland
Parenting, transgender

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

This is the fourth in a four-part series. We have been awaiting a report on a best interest custody evaluation for over a year. This has been difficult enough, waiting and wondering. Though we finished the interview process over a year ago, the evaluator decided that he should finally speak to a teacher on the… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 4

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whatever comes. because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. -Rumi
self help

Practicing Gratitude, Welcoming Miracles

Yoga is a practice. Wholehearted living is a practice. Just like learning a new instrument, these things are a practice. There is always room for growth. In the last year, I have been practicing meditation. For years I have met the “do you meditate?” question with resistance and “I’ve tried but I’m terrible at it.”… Continue reading Practicing Gratitude, Welcoming Miracles

Parenting, transgender

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 3

This is the third in a four-part series. Aidan’s “first day” as a girl was exciting. She and I went to the beach on a warm April day, only to find it was pretty cold at the beach but she was wearing what would become her new favorite outfit, a dinosaur skort with a lovey… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 3

“Over the years I have learned that what is important in a dress is the woman who is wearing it.” -Yves Saint-Laurent quote
Parenting, self love

Whole Hearted Parenting in Practice: Part 2

This is the second in a four-part series. Not long after wearing nail polish to school for the first time, Aidan was relaxing in the tub before doing the “business of the bath.” I was unprepared for my child, who was playing with their penis, told me “Mommy, I don’t think I’m supposed to be… Continue reading Whole Hearted Parenting in Practice: Part 2

"We've begun to raise daughters more like sons...but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters." -Gloria Steinem dark-haired boys and a girl running happily outside

Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 1

This is the first in a four-part series. Aidan wanted to wear toe nail polish at about eighteen months old. For being one of the easiest children ever, cutting Aidan’s toenails was a NIGHTMARE, but putting Aidan in the highchair so one couldn’t see their feet allowed me to cut toenails, then I’d slip on… Continue reading Wholehearted Parenting in Practice: Part 1