divorce, domestic violence, family court, self help, transgender

Worth Fighting For

My daughter deserves to grow up in a home where she is treated with dignity and where her self-identified gender is respected. She deserved to grow up loved by her parents for who she is. This is not only the moral thing to do, State law requires it.

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coparenting, family court

What’s the Saying About Insanity?

Three years ago this week we appeared in family court for the first time, after a year and a half of back and forth intimidation without attorneys. Tomorrow I will represent myself before our judge for the tenth time.  For the most part, I would say it gets easier all the time. I know what… Continue reading What’s the Saying About Insanity?

coparenting, safety, self help

Bending in the Wind

If you have been involved in a relationship with a narcissist the first direction you will receive from all self-help books on the subject of narcissistic abuse is to cut off all contact. If you have left a domestic relationship that was abusive, being subjected to contact with your abuser can trigger anxiety attacks, flashbacks,… Continue reading Bending in the Wind

community, women

Questioning My Faith in a Broken System

When I left our family court hearing early last Friday morning I was frustrated to hear the decision would be mailed to us later that day. In 2015 it was to be mailed on actual paper with a stamp and all. My husband was away for work all week. I turned Aidan over to his… Continue reading Questioning My Faith in a Broken System

community

Practicing Faith and Authenticity in Family Court

My dreams did not come true today. It was close. I learned about the Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality as I was in the car on my way home from the courthouse. I cried tears of relief, fear and happiness. As a proud advocate for LGBTQ rights for the whole of my adult life… Continue reading Practicing Faith and Authenticity in Family Court

community, self help

Me and Brené, Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith

I could not have planned the timing of this guidepost any better if I had tried. Even if I had tried it would have gotten thrown off by, yet another, adjournment request from opposing counsel.  Two weeks ago my faith was waning and my intuition was being second guessed at every turn. To fill you… Continue reading Me and Brené, Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith

community, self help

Me and Brené: Cultivating Gratitude and Joy

This time is a repeatedly difficult time for me. Two weeks ago I filed a Motion to Enforce Litigants Rights with the family court. It was delivered to opposing counsel. They didn’t accept it. It was delivered again last Tuesday, a day after they needed to receive it according to the court calendar. I assume… Continue reading Me and Brené: Cultivating Gratitude and Joy

community, mental health, self help

To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

Earlier this week a California judge ordered that actress Kelly Rutherford’s two young children be returned to the United States after an appallingly bad decision from another judge that the children be ripped from their mother and only known caregiver to go live with their German father in France because his visa had expired. If… Continue reading To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

community, mental health, self help

Me and Brené, Cultivating a Resilient Spirit

For the last couple of months I have noticed some unhealthy patterns in my daily routine. Not going to the gym, at all. Allowing myself a lot of “treats” because I “deserved it”. Spending too much time in the bathroom because I’d get caught up in Facebook. The behavior that bothered me the most was… Continue reading Me and Brené, Cultivating a Resilient Spirit