community, mental health, self help

To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

Earlier this week a California judge ordered that actress Kelly Rutherford’s two young children be returned to the United States after an appallingly bad decision from another judge that the children be ripped from their mother and only known caregiver to go live with their German father in France because his visa had expired. If… Continue reading To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

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Me and Brené, Cultivating a Resilient Spirit

For the last couple of months, I have noticed some unhealthy patterns in my daily routine. Not going to the gym, at all. Allowing myself a lot of “treats” because I “deserved it”. Spending too much time in the bathroom because I’d get caught up in Facebook. The behavior that bothered me the most was… Continue reading Me and Brené, Cultivating a Resilient Spirit

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Me and Brené, Cultivating Self Compassion

I have been avoiding writing about this guidepost for two weeks now. Why? Because it is probably my biggest struggle. Today we look at "Cultivating Self Compassion: Letting Go of Perfectionism." I have never researched it but maybe having an eating disorder leads you to the expectation of “perfect” and unattainable goals in all areas… Continue reading Me and Brené, Cultivating Self Compassion

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Thanks, Mom

“In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month I light this candle of gratitude for my mother, Lynn, who had the courage to leave an abusive husband with three young daughters in tow. I am certain she saved our lives, and she taught us that love shouldn’t hurt.” Every Sunday at worship at the Unitarian Universalist… Continue reading Thanks, Mom

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Day of Unity in Montclair. Kind of.

So the National Day of Unity has come and gone and the event that I had planned for Montclair, NJ was not a blazing success.  Only a few people showed up and because of this they just wanted to go home.  I was very disappointed.  I had set high expectations.  I mistakenly thought that just… Continue reading Day of Unity in Montclair. Kind of.

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A Case of Nerves

"The important thing about being a person with a story to tell is that you break the silence and try to raise awareness that this happens to women of all different ages, all different ethnicities, income levels, education levels — it happens in every religion, in every community." -Leslie Morgan Steiner, Domestic violence survivor and… Continue reading A Case of Nerves

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The Presence of Greatness

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do."  -Eleanor Roosevelt There… Continue reading The Presence of Greatness


Taking a Chance

Two weeks ago when the media was buzzing about Ray Rice and the NFL's domestic violence policy, or lack thereof, I was swarmed with emotion.  As a survivor of domestic violence there were triggers of victim blaming and reminders of the humiliation and fear that came with the territory when others become a part of… Continue reading Taking a Chance