community, mental health, self help

To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

Earlier this week a California judge ordered that actress Kelly Rutherford’s two young children be returned to the United States after an appallingly bad decision from another judge that the children be ripped from their mother and only known caregiver to go live with their German father in France because his visa had expired. If… Continue reading To Have Faith and Courage While Being Afraid

legislation, mental health

A Slimy Tongue to Dry My Tears

A new piece of bipartisan legislation is being considered right now that would provide domestic violence shelters money to implement pet safety programs. Aptly named, the PAWS Act (Pet and Women Safety Act of 2015) is being supported widely by domestic violence and animals rights activists.  A dozen studies have found that victims of domestic… Continue reading A Slimy Tongue to Dry My Tears

health

The Fear In My Bones

“A woman in a violent relationship is often on high alert: She may be frightened about being killed or worried about her kids; if she tries to get away, she may be stalked. All that stress is really toxic. There’s no organ that’s immune. Your whole body is at risk.”  TRIGGER WARNING for sexual assault… Continue reading The Fear In My Bones

community, health

Thanks, Mom

“In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month I light this candle of gratitude for my mother, Lynn, who had the courage to leave an abusive husband with three young daughters in tow. I am certain she saved our lives, and she taught us that love shouldn’t hurt.” Every Sunday at worship at the Unitarian Universalist… Continue reading Thanks, Mom

community, health

The Presence of Greatness

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do."  -Eleanor Roosevelt There… Continue reading The Presence of Greatness

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A Big Day

"Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes." -Maggie Kuhn Not quite two years ago I walked into a church and it changed my life.  I was not saved and I did not find Jesus, I am still an atheist, but to my surprise that is actually OK.  Spending time with Unitarian Universalists, and discovering… Continue reading A Big Day

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A Vote of Confidence

Two years ago this week my grandmother died. She and I were not close, in fact she had disowned me when I was a teenager. I had been trying to reestablish a relationship for a few years before she died. She loved my little boy, though and I wanted to be there when she died.… Continue reading A Vote of Confidence

community

Taking a Chance

Two weeks ago when the media was buzzing about Ray Rice and the NFL's domestic violence policy, or lack thereof, I was swarmed with emotion.  As a survivor of domestic violence there were triggers of victim blaming and reminders of the humiliation and fear that came with the territory when others become a part of… Continue reading Taking a Chance